How to pass a woman’s “B.S.” Test!

There’s a common saying in street fighting that 95% of all
real fights wind up in a clinch and go to the ground. Could that
really be true? Frankly, I don’t know. But I will say this: 95%
of the time, a woman will test you by the second date, or
sooner, to see:

1. If you’ll take her bullshit.

2. How hungry you are for her attention (remember: those who
look hungry, never get fed)

3. Just how much control she can exert over you and/or the

In this issue, I’d like to talk about how you can pass those
tests, and how to do some testing of your own. Believe me, this
is important. If you’ve ever been dumped for being “too nice”,
or have been told, time and again, “let’s just be friends”, it’s
because you haven’t learned to recognize when you’re being
tested or just haven’t yet learned how to properly respond. You
thought you would get points for being “co-operative” and
“helpful”, and instead you just got the fuzzy end of the

Why She Tests You: The Search For Strength And Certainty

Look: one of the primary things that women are looking for
from a man is security; the feeling that someone is stronger
than they are. When you put a woman in her place, when you set
rules and boundaries for her to follow, it lets her know she can
relax around you and feel comfortable and secure. This search
for strength is the single most important reason why she tests
you. The other factor is ambivalence, or what I call the “make
up my mind for me” syndrome.

You see, the sad reality is that often a woman just isn’t
that interested in you one way or another. Maybe you aren’t
exactly the physical type she goes for, maybe she just got
burned in a bad relationship, or there’s some unseen competitor
who she’s waiting to hear from. What ever her reasons, you can
tell this is happening when you hear something like, “Uh…well,
I’d like to go out with you Friday, but why don’t you call me
late Friday afternoon and I’ll let you know for sure?”

Finally, there is the fact that sometimes, modern women just
get overwhelmed with eighty billion things they are trying to do
at once. And, when overwhelmed, they flake on commitments that
occur during the peak of the overwhelm.

How To Handle It…Dealing From A Position Of Strength

To get back to street fighting analogies, there’s a concept
from Jeet Kun Do, the fighting style of the late, great Bruce
Lee that basically says that any weapon thrust your way, as part
of an attack is just a convenient target to be destroyed. Coming
from this perspective, an attack, rather than something to be
feared, is just an unprecedented opportunity to…. KICK THE

Just so, a woman’s bullshit and tests are great
opportunities to establish respect and dramatically increase her
interest in you. In other words, your response to these tests,
instead of being, “Oh no.…why is she doing this? What did I do
wrong?”, from now on will be…. AH, HAH! A RESPECT

Look: your attitude has to be that every rude piece of
behavior, every silly test of hers is just an unprecedented
opportunity for you to establish respect, increase her interest,
and intensify her desire to please you. Taken from this
perspective, you’ll be mentally prepared, and may even find
yourself actually looking forward to her trying to pull shit,
since you know it’s your chance to get her really hot for
you!!!! Now, before we go on to some specific scenarios, let me
add one other thing: when you do put her in her place. …


In other words, the macho idiot who loses control and
trashes the place when his girlfriend comes home ten minutes
late is definitely not the example to follow. All he’s doing is
showing he can’t control himself and he just earns the woman’s
contempt. Notice I’m not saying you can’t or shouldn’t get a
little pissed. Just don’t go nutso with a stream of obscenities.
(Streams of obscenities are for afterwards, when you are in bed
with her.)

The other thing that doesn’t work is acting like a hurt
little boy. Whining stuff like, “How could you do this to me?”
or, “But you promised!” won’t cut it, good buddy. No. You have
to come from the calm, but firm “take it or leave it” position.
This is all part of displaying the critically important………


You see, after years of experience and study, I’ve come to
the conclusion that a woman can only experience real passion for
you if on some level she believes she could do something to lose
you! Understand that when you show this willingness to walk
away, in any area of your life, it conveys the message that you
are the prize to be pursued, that you are the person of value,
and they had better take advantage of the opportunity. This is
an attitude that will move you forward in any area that’s
challenging you.

By way of contrast, if you show a non-stop, forever and ever
devotion to her, and put up with her crap and ambivalence, then
where is that tension of knowing she could lose you? Answer:
nowhere! And that’s why you get nowhere when you put up with
this kind of stuff! If you’ve seen an initially hot relationship
grow ice-cold, this is one big reason!!! Ok. On to some

Scenario one: You call to ask her out for the first time.
Her response is ambivalent, something like, “Well, I’d like to
but, why don’t you call me later in the week and….” Here’s
your response: “Let me ask you a question, point blank. Is going
out with me something you can take or leave or is it something
that you’re smart enough that you really want to do that?” Then
shut the hell up and listen for her answer.

Now, what are you doing here? You’re calling her on her
ambivalence and letting her know you don’t have time to be put
on hold. And you’re also suggesting she’s stupid if she doesn’t
grab this opportunity.

Finally, you’re embedding a command (about which much more
later in other issues of this newsletter) that she really does
want to go out with you. Will this work? Very often it does.
It’s not what she’s expecting, and that always gets attention.
Just be as matter of fact and non-hostile as you can.
Understatement works best with this one. What if she still
hesitates? Well, say this one: You: Look. You have my number,
and I’m going to leave it up to you. And you know, if you don’t
call it’s going to be a loss for me, but maybe what you won’t
realize until after you hang up is, that it’ll be a loss for you
as well. Ok? Bye.

Scenario Two: She calls and cancels at the last minute
without offering to do it again at some specific time. (I’ve
heard every excuse in the book, my friend, from “My parakeet is
sick” to “I’ve got to shampoo the rug”. Seriously)

Her: I can’t make it. I’ve got a rare tropical disease
that’s causing me to shrink by the hour.

You:(dead silence for as long as it takes for her to talk
again. Just say NOTHING!!!)

Her: Hello? Are you there? What’s wrong?

You: What’s wrong is I can’t believe the bullshit I’m

Her: What?????

You: Look…you made a commitment to spend time with me and
now you’re blowing me off. You’re disrespecting me and
disrespecting my time and I’m NOT going to put up with it. My
rule is, if someone makes a commitment to me, I expect them to
keep it. If they can’t keep it, I need to know at least a day in
advance so I can make other plans. Got it? If you can live with
that rule, great…if not, sayonara!

Then, HANG UP!! Now, this may sound extreme, but man does it
work well!!! In fact, she’ll probably call back with five
minutes and apologize and ask you out!!! I’m not kidding here;
I’ve seen the hardest, jaded bitches go to giggly little girls,
eager to please me when I’ve done this. It throws some kind of
switch in their heads. I guess with some people, you don’t
really get their attention until…

You Give Them A Swift Kick In The Ass!!

Please note, I’m speaking of an attitude. I am NOT talking
about or in any way suggesting or condoning physical violence
with a woman. In fact, I am against the use or threat of the use
of violence or force against ANY human being, unless there is an
imminent threat of violence against yourself or a loved one. I
can’t  make this too clear.  I’m talking about using your mind,
NOT your fists.

Scenario Three: You go to pick her up at her place and she
either keeps you waiting outside for more than ten minutes, or
lets you in and then proceeds to talk on the phone for at least
that long while totally ignoring you. Wait for her to finish,
and as soon as she does say something like this:

YOU: Can I ask you a question?

HER: Sure.

YOU: Are you being intentionally rude to test me, or are you
just accidentally acting clueless?

HER:(mouth dropping open in shock, unable to say anything!)

YOU: Don’t ever keep me waiting like this again, ok? I’ll
always treat you respectfully, but I expect the same. Do you
understand me?

HER: Uh..uh…yes.

The point is this: when women throw this stuff your way, you
want to do the unexpected. Don’t put up with it, like a “nice
guy” and don’t lose your temper like a jerk. Walk a middle
ground of strength, self-control AND self-respect, and these
tests will become opportunities to power her straight into your

And that certainly beats a poke in the eye, doesn’t it?

‘Til next time,

How Mixing “Love And Sex” Can Squash Your Suck-Sess

Here are a few worn-out, wasted, and woe-begone cliches you’ve probably heard before.

“Men and women must be in love before they have sex.” “Women will most likely have sex on the third date, but will not decide if they love him for another 6 months, because they believe love takes time.” (Is this why the “third date” is assigned so much importance?)

As you continue to master your girl-getting game and achieve more and more tight trim triumph… as you peel away the layers of doubt and beliefs that haven’t served you… please get this; discovering your false and limiting beliefs ARE GAINS!!!

As you see what actually works with women in the world, you cannot help having your old beliefs challenged and changed. As you change and challenge your old beliefs, you cannot help but make progress in the field.

This is what makes Speed Seduction® unique and special: it requires you deeply re-examine how you think about women, what attracts them, and indeed, what “attraction”, “love” “desire” really are, as PROCESSES with a structure, sequence, flow, movement etc.

Well, my belief is that you can NOT have a truly “loving” relationship WITHOUT sex. So there.

Forget about such stupid generalities as the “all important third date” and other calls to mastur-wait-ion. Those who preach these ideas base them on THEIR limits. Just because THEY need to go on “dates” and follow the “rules” to get the chick in bed, YOU should too. That’s how they’d have it.

I’ve had women “fall in love” with me in 20 minutes. Some never do.

Look, the real issue is: will doing as OTHERS say help YOU go where you need to?

What is the process – the methodology – by which YOU will discover what works and what is true? Do you really need written reassurances or can you move through some uncertainty with a determination to FIND OUT FOR YOURSELF WHAT WORKS?

Do you see my point? The real value is asking a better question than “when will women have sex or fall in love?”

The better question is, “How do YOU find out what is true and real, for yourself? And how do you handle the uncertainty of looking? Can you convert into excitement, curiosity, playful determination?”

More and more I am convinced that my job as a master teacher is NOT to answer the question the student asks. 70% of the time it is redirecting the student to ask the much more useful question or questions that they aren’t even thinking to ask.

Peace and piece,
Aldy Harold

P.S. You can get some progress just by mindless imitation; but deep change and huge sastisfaction / suck-sex requires you change the filters and beliefs through which you address the world of women. The best way to do this is twofold – reprogram the belief mentally and through ritual.


Why Txt Msgs Sck Dck

Why in the world would any guy in his right mind want to take a step backward down the intimacy ladder with women?

Yet that is exactly what many men are doing by following stupid-ass advice from “PUA GURUS” to use text messaging with women they’ve just met.

Listen: using your voice is far more powerful, conveys far more emotional meaning, and enables you to evoke far more powerful states of emotion than even the most cleverly worded text.

Hey: if it is true that 70% of communication is not the actual words we use, but facial expressions and the tone of our voice, then what in the world do you think is the result of just typing words?

Is it just me, or does that seem like screwing when your dick is soft?

The only time you should ever use text messages with women is after you have already “hooked up”. Once you’ve done that, then texting can be a way to easily arrange meetings or stay in touch, but even then it has to be used judiciously and sparingly.

A few other things to bear in mind:

  • My students often tell me about women who at the end of a phone call will say “text me” or who will want to hang up, yet immediately continue the conversation via txt msg-ng. Is she serious? Don’t you want her to take a step forward, TOWARD you? Will texting “hey wassup?” pull her closer?
  • So she’s into “sexting.” Like cybering, you have to wonder, is she visioning you when she types all that naughty stuff, or is she thinking about a guy she’s actually fckng who isn’t there rite now 2 srvce hr 2day?

Remember: txt mssgs sck dck and only asshls use them on chicks they hvnt fckd.

Peace and piece,

Aldy Harold

P.S. When you can use your language to capture and lead a woman’s imagination and emotions within minutes of meeting her, she’ll probably text you something like, “Cn I cme ovr and sck yr dck?”

Boyfriend Destroyer and kingdom of sarge

I’ve dealt with the ethics of boyfriend destroying. Today, I am going to share an actual Sarge report from a student who successfully used this technique. Stay with me for a moment as I lay it out for you.

There’s a scintillatingly hot clerk at his local convenience store. After seeing her and chatting her up a few times, he realized he needed to step up and claim his results. So, on his third visit, he made his move. Setting aside a plan to go back and say “when I was here earlier I forgot to pick up a few things” he decided instead to clearly state his intention when he saw her.

She heard what he had to say, then nicely told him she has a boyfriend.

His reponse? “So what? I wasn’t expecting you to LEAVE HIM FOR ME.”(Embedded command).

Then she said, “I really care about him, and he wouldn’t like it, and I just don’t do that kind of thing.”

He replied, “I really respect that. I hope someday you change your mind, and have a great day.”

And Then, HIS Day Got Much, Much Better…

At that moment, the most incredible thing happened.

She just melted. She OPENED UP she had been going through a really rough time lately, etc. He looked her in the eye and said “I’m so sorry. I know what it’s like, and things just get worse and worse no matter how hard you try. And I hope things get better for you soon.” He turned to walk away and she caught his arm and said “Wait”, wrote her phone number down and handed it to him.

The Keys To The Kingdom Are Dangling Before You

Just like the most delicious, perfectly shaped, more-than-a-mouthful boobies that have ever made their way to your face while she straddled you.

I tell you, when you get results like this, you are not far from the Kingdom of Sarge. When you hear my words and do them, you shall live in moist, pink abundance, forever and ever, Sarge without end.

The ability to see where the other person is at WITHOUT HAVING TO GO THERE YOURSELF is a key skill in any form of persuasion/seduction/influencing.

When you can combine equanimity with uncertainty – being ok with not knowing what is going to happen AND giving the other person radical permission to have their FIRST response to you, it creates an unbelievably powerful doorwayfor something unexpected to occur.

Believe what I say and you shall inherit the Kingdom of Poontang.

Peace and piece,

Aldy Harold


Who Are You, And How Do You Know Me?

Once again, I reach into my lovely mail bag and pull out an e-mail I got from a student about… his attempt to e-mail an HB9 he met at a party.

Some of the patterning was good, but it came off…just…BAD because the context was WAY OFF.

> I met this girl HB9 at a party full of people 3 weeks ago. I talked with her only for a few times and for short periods. We kept getting interrupted by her friends, an attempt by another guy to cockblock me. She behaved also like a social butterfly talking to different people, breaking conversations fast, etc. I managed to get her email address just before she left.

Yeah, in what context? In other words, was it done after you and she were into each other, you had captured and lead her imagination and emotions, future-paced spending time together, as in, “It’s too bad we can’t FIND A WAY TO HANG OUT AGAIN AND SEE WHAT WE COULD ENJOY”.

Or did you just say, “give me your email”?

I think it was more the latter, rather than the former. Anyway, let’s continue.

> My first email to her was two weeks later. It read:
> I am Randy, I enjoyed meeting you at the party. It was pleasant and without giving you the impression to be too serious, too early, I learned how much it is rare to find someone funny, authentically sympathetic, nice and charming; but enough about me, you seem to be also a potentially interesting girl 
> By observing you that evening, I noted that you were rather sympathetic and smiling. At the same time, you showed some reserve when in contact with new people. It is as if there is an interior conflict in you between a natural reserve and a desire to connect with others.
> You know, with me, you can feel at ease, be completely yourself without needing to play a social part or without having fear of being judged. The tolerance, the open mindedness and the compassion for me and the others you showed are paramount values which guide my way of being, thinking and acting.
> Could you describe me one of your passions? You know one of these activities in which you feel yourself completely transported, completely absorbed by what you do, where time seems to be slowing, until it stops and where you feel the spirit, the flame in you that shines. And it is in one of these moments, that you feel yourself more alive, that you feel the most passion and that you are more in contact with the spiritual force which is with each one of us and which then appears with the most clearness and beauty. For me, I am fascinated by literature and in particular by poetic creation. If you like also poetry, we could exchange poems and give our respective impressions.
> Please answer me,
> Randy

After trying to salvage the situation by snagging her e-mail address from the clutches of total defeat, why did you mastur-wait for two weeks before dropping her a line?

How do you know she liked you on that first meeting? From what you described, it seems like you were struggling to get two words in. How do you know? And then what? A personality reading? It comes across as begging for her approval, trying to impress her. Total AFC here.

Next, how was she tolerant, open minded and compassionate? How do you get all that from a casual chat at a party that kept getting interrupted?

Well, She Answered The Following Day

And…it was a doozy. I knew she’d answer – but I saw this coming before I even read that far.

> hi Randy,
> thank you for your message, but, how did you have my email?? you know, I spoke with many people that evening. what did we talk about, at which moment of the evening? what do you look like? sorry I can’t remember.
> unless you tell me more about you, I am sorry but I won’t be able to talk to you further.

Ouch. She didn’t even fucking recognize who you were. That’s my point. In a seduction situation, email, texting, phone calls, can work, but without a command of non-local influence, you have to put in the work IN PERSON, FACE TO FACE.


Aldy Harold

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